I experienced another coincidence lately. I was using StumbleUpon and came across Kaeli on it. As I occasionally do, I perused her profile and saw that she was interested in discussion. I wrote to her:
Hey Kaeli, I noticed that you are really into discussion. Let’s start one. What is the most critical subject of elementary skills: reading, writing, and arithmetic.
She replied and said that she was indeed interest in discussion, but she asked "How’d you notice that I’m into discussion?" As she would later tell me, she thought some of her past discussions with other people had somehow become public. Anyhow, I creatively wrote back:
Actually, I’m psychic. I just kind of pick up on subtle clues. In this case, it was the subtle clue in your profile message. I bet if you take a look at it, you’ll see how I figured out that you were into discussion. Go ahead, give it a try.
There was no real psychic element. He profile message said this rather explicitly:
I’m really into spiritual and intellectual learning, discussion, and humor.
Anyhow, I finished the message with a secret to help ensure she would respond:
As for why I asked the question, that is just a secret that I can’t share. Maybe if we continue talking and I trust you with it, I’ll share the secret.
The context of this is that I had been reading various things about relationships and dating. Most of the skills I come across are applicable for general social situations as well. One of those principles is to leave with the other person wanting more so that they will come again. My most recent reading is The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists by Neil Strauss. I had actually seen the book originally mentioned on a Dating on Demand segment and seen it recommended at a few sites.
Anyhow, she responded and said that psychic line was funny. I told that I had been reading about relationships and so forth and was reading this book. I ended telling the secret:
As for that secret, I just asked the question to get a response. As for the secret, that is to get a second response. That is actually a bit of an idea from the pickup artist community, but it applicable to general conversation as well. You want to know the secret, so you’ll come back for more conversation in this case.
At this point a weird connection was made:
Yeah, unfortunately I discovered that secret before. lol. A friend of mine (who I had only known for a short while at the time) tried all of this pick-up stuff on me- his best friend’s girlfriend- and wrote in his blog the details of his progress. He commented about the psychological things he was trying to do, and my weird/blondeness. As you can probably tell, I’m kind of bitter about this. lol. I liked him a lot, and it really hurt me to find out that he was just doing this psychological thing, you know?
Coincidentally, he goes to your college. So either you’re him, or your perhaps slightly-more-evil twin is running around your campus. lol. You reminded me of him right away.
Anyway… Your thoughts on this? lol.
Anyhow, since that weird connection was made, she has kept talking to me. It was a weird coincidence though.
This post was reviewed by her before I posted it.